I recently sent these tips to my guy, on deflecting a flirt by quoting lines from stock video game characters (“NPCs“): The Guy pointed out that it looks fun, but he hasn’t had girls giving him bad pickup lines recently. I can fix that. Because we met in church, I’ve…
I’ve talked about using the US census to estimate your dating options in America, in Maine, and in selected US cities. If you’d like to explore your own area, here’s how to get started: 1) Set up your account and use the online analysis tool First, you’ll make a free…
When I was in kindergarten, my mother took away my Barbies. “But they’re miiiiine,” I cried, and she said something about taking a break. I was getting too focused on how I looked, on clothes and pretty friends and having the right body. I wanted everything that Barbie had….
1. The Job Offer Before accepting a recent job offer, I asked friends and mentors how I should negotiate. “Go for everything,” Raya advised. “Relocation, housing, a bigger salary… maybe they’ll pay for utilities set-up fees? My library did.” “Don’t negotiate,” Jillian said. “Lean In said that women never…
Given these many ways of doing relationships, I want us to look at all paths: single life, community life, or partnership with another person. Given the Bible’s focus on not making hasty vows, I’d challenge my fellow western Christians not to pressure young people to make lifelong vows before they’re ready….
One path doesn’t work for everyone, as I wrote before. So people are starting to discuss just what an honest commitment means. The New I Do suggests that young couples–and even long-married folks–discuss their values and goals in a relationship, before making or reaffirming a commitment. In this model, you could choose: A “beta”…
So that path to becoming a monk or nun looks very different from America’s “relationship escalator.” You know, the one that moves smoothly from dating to relationship to engagement to marriage to children, in perfect happiness: Or as Jenna McCarthy puts it in her TED talk, two million American couples each…
Don’t have time to read right now? Consider downloading the PDF of this four-post series here. In college, I considered becoming a nun. I think I was drawn by the focus, the devotion to a way of life. I even took private vows for a year… thinking that if I stepped…
So John Oliver’s just come out with a Chrome extension called Drumpfinator, that changes all web mentions of Trump to his ancestral name, Drumpf: This is fantastic! But why stop there? There are so many other Chrome extensions to change your perspective! If you feel like the Internet (or the…
For hundreds of years, influence has circulated among affluent European folk, highly educated and living in cities. These guys formed our laws, built networks of influence, ran companies and nonprofits, and produce creative works that influence us today. And often, it’s hard for others to really be heard until people…